Having a child that is reverent is a blessing. No matter what your upbringing or background, I would argue that a child who prays is a positive thing. I am a Christian. To me and my family, prayer has been a source of strength, peace, and growth. I realize that various readers have a wide range of beliefs. If you are not religious or a professing believer, thank you for being a part of this blog and being open-minded to keep reading. I do think that it is important that writers not only give resources to their readers but also a “personal” message to people.
The older I get, the less I think I have to prove myself to others. I hope that this allows for an honest heart that wants to help people, instead of some authority that people should listen to. That being said, I have a heart for fathers and kids. I pray for my children regularly and have always emphasized to them the importance of prayer.
I believe that we are physical, emotional, and spiritual beings. Prayer, therefore, is an essential part of a healthy lifestyle. We teach our children to eat right and get exercise. We encourage them to pursue positive and encouraging relationships. These things are many times within our control, but requiring discipline to maintain. So what do we do about those things that are beyond us? Supernatural means that which is beyond nature. I attribute these things to God. I believe in a creator. We can discuss or debate this, but for me and my family, we acknowledge the sovereignty of a God that knows us, loves us, disciplines us, and is ultimately in control.
When my kids were little, this belief gave them a real source of comfort. Prayers, especially before bedtime became their desire. They would pray about the most amazing things. They expressed their compassion for others and a sense of thankfulness for what they had. It was beautiful. It blessed me just as much as it did them. I am so thankful to have been a part of it. I hope that one day, I will be able to hear the prayers of grandchildren. It all starts with a practice knowing that they can tell God anything. It instills a grateful and compassionate heart. That quality in a child is a wonderful thing.
As they grow older, their perception of God will grow with reading and asking of questions. This is where you as a dad need to be the best example to them. Because of their trust in you as the dad, many kids will adopt your belief system. Does this mean that you are responsible? Yes. God gave these children to you and expects you to be the example of truth. Through their spiritual growth, they will want to know how and why things work as they do. They will want to know what God wants in their lives. Let me give you two things to remember. Read and listen.
Perhaps you have given or received the comment that says, “you can’t learn if you are talking”. I encourage my kids to read the bible and to make listening a part of their prayer life. In Ecclesiastes 5:1-2 it says, “Guard your steps when you go to the house of God. To draw near to listen is better than to offer the sacrifice of fools, for they do not know that they are doing evil. Be not rash with your mouth, nor let your heart be hasty to utter a word before God, for God is in heaven and you are on earth. Therefore let your words be few.” So what do they listen to? God speaks to us when we read his word, and through the words of others. This is where I would refer you back to my blog on discernment. Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” Prayer and discernment will help them filter the good vs. bad advice.
My wife and I taught our kids that prayer is an opportunity more than an obligation. Both our children as well as ourselves have been blessed by prayer and doing it together. We have seen God work in our lives, in those of our children, in addition to the relationship that we share. It has been a bond between us and has strengthened the family tie. We realize that there are those with differing faiths. However, we can only hold to what we know to be the truth and our experiences with it.
As our kids develop, they will have needs. It is our job as dads to address these needs. The knowledge and practice begin with us. As in many situations, it is our job as dads to have our act together, before we address others. Although your spiritual growth is a life long process, the foundation must be laid, and it needs to start with you. Your kids are looking for answers. They want to be able to trust dad. Therefore, it is so important that we work on ourselves to continually give them the best guidance. Read, pray, and share. Be the best dad possible.